How to survive a long distance relationship

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Ugh. Reminds me of the days when I used to read Thought Catalog. *rant alert* This article has some interesting points but in my interpretation, I think it makes a lot of generalisations.

First of all, assuming that everyone thinks long distance relationships are the worst and that they suck. Yes, it’s challenging at times but this attitude adds to the discourse that short distance relationships are more normal and legitimate relationships. This is why whenever I tell some people that I am in a long distance relationship, I am met with a look of pity. Newsflash: my current situation is not a sad one and my relationship is as legitimate as yours.

Moreover, according to this article, apparently I don’t know my boyfriend that well because we have distance between us. I disagree. Did it ever occur to the writer that some couples have spent some/a lot of time together before they became a long distance couple? Just because we now have to communicate over Skype, doesn’t mean we put on this curated “front stage self” and only know each other on a superficial level. What about communication? My bf and I spend a lot of time on Skype talking about what we did today, what we will do tomorrow, and an array of topics such as ourselves, our plans, social issues, funny stuff, life stories, movies that we’ve watched, current skincare routines (:P), etc. As if we don’t know each other well after talking about all of that!

Okay, I’ll cut the writer some slack for putting forward points like be slow to judge and always have a future plan in mind. But I had to point out what was problematic in this article because I think we need to change the discourse towards long distance relationships. Quite frankly, I am tired of certain people assuming things about my relationship and some parts of this article reinforced that discourse.

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